eventually i got fed up with everything and just bought a exedy hd clutch from the uk
just a tip, dont buy parts from overseas! especially if they are cheap with free shipping!
when the clutch arrived i relised that they had given me a hd clutch plate with a oem replacement pressure plate!
so it grabs fine as long as i dont bully it around too much
after that i bought some bonnet clips, found a spoiler in my mates back yard, and painted the r34 wheels and mucked around with the height a bit, this is the resoult!