bit of an update.
put the battery on charge last night just to make sure thats not the problem, put that back in once it was reading 14.5v on the charger while being charged.
I then tried cranking it again and still got nothing, i tried this a couple of times and ended up blowing/melting the ignition fuse again that went originally, the alarm guy had replaced that 40amp fuse with a 50 amp fuse and it still went, this now to me is pointining more and more to the starter circuit relay and something there shorting?!?!?, keeping in mind that I am able to roll start the car though.