I have the same mess when changing the oil filter, it just goes everywhere. And then I had trouble getting the new one to srew on. Tryed for 5 mins dam thing, Then hey I'll use my other hand/arm and hey screwed on first go, just couldnt get the right angle with the other hand for some reason.
I did the fuel filter the other day, Yes the hoses are very tight, I used pliers to wrigle the hose around till it has movement. Lost a little fuel while changing it but nothing to worry about. Try and block off the hoses when you change them.