It is all about flow and the tune not the psi. Pressure is just a measure of restriction, if you get your head flowed, bigger cams, larger exhaust side of the turbo and larger intake then your psi will drop but you are pushing just as much if not more air. Also you could tune a motor running 6psi so badly that it will cook itself if you try.
A better measure of is how much power the engine can make before it goes bang, assuming a perfect tune. I've seen a few 250kw+ rb20s on here last more than a few years but it all comes down to many factors.
If you are making 220kw with a safe tune with maybe 15-20psi I don't see why you couldn't get a lot of life out of it
This is a flawed question, you should be asking what turbo for x rwkw with similar to standard response. PSI doesn't mean anything unless you specify the turbo combination. As 15psi on a small turbo will flow similar power to 8psi on a much larger turbo.
Your best bet is a steel wheeled highflowed rb20/rb25 turbo that aren't too much bigger. The lowest HP rating highflow turbos are probably your cheapest option, otherwise a 2530 etc.
These will all make 200-230kw on roughly 16psi+ although you won't have standard response, it will definitely be laggier. If you want standard response I would recommend an rb25 turbo, these can push 180-190kw with a good tune and 12psi, will only increase the lag by about 500rpm.