So I tried packing the pivot point with a 5mm washer, after removing the 2mm washer, put gearbox back together and no change in the clutch play. still 10mm of travel before biting.
but the clutch fork had very little movement when the gearbox went back in so to avoid further damage as my clutch starts to wear, I pulled the gearbox back out, put the 2mm washer back in, took off the 5mm washer and set it back to normal.
it hurts having to pull the box out twice in a day with no result but that's trial and error I guess, next step will be a larger master cylinder I think, will have to search around for these as I haven't heard of larger clutch masters for my car, just the larger slave, which wont help IMO.