Similar problem here. Get a vibration over 100km/h after fitting new rims and tyres (18x8's with 225/40's). Wheels have been balanced three times and alignment done twice, all good. Have been doing a bit of bit research on various forums but I have not found any definite answers. Like NZM.031 says there are many components making up the suspension. The original, worn-out suspension rubbers are probably having trouble coping with the bigger, often heavier, wheel. You will have to get under there and look for excessive play. I found that my tension rod bushings are leaking and I will change these out within the next two weeks. Vibration at speed is also a sign of worn shocks. The standard shocks are good for about 60000km. Again, the worn shocks could be having trouble controlling bigger, heavier wheels. I found someone with a similar problem on a 300zx forum. His solution related the centre hole diameter of the wheel. Basically, the weight of the vehicle should rest on the centre hole of the rim, not on the studs. Most aftermarket rims are made to suit a variety of cars and have quite large centre holes. This means that the weight of the car rests on the studs. Apparently this can cause balance problems. Switch back to the original wheels and see if this solves the problem. I have sold the original wheels so I can't test this theory. Start by eliminating the easy stuff. I've been slowly replacing worn components with new items but the vibration is still there. Eventually I will end up with a fully adjustable race suspension set-up but with my luck the shaking will still be there.
Good luck.