You need a twin relay setup. Purchase a changeover relay from dick smith, autobarn, etc.
Relays
30 goes to green wire of actuator
87A goes to earth
87 goes to 12V source
86 goes to 12V source
85 goes to negative trigger from your alarm (unlock signal)
For the second relay, connect all the same except to 30 connect the blue wire from the actuator and to 85 connect the negative trigger from your alarm (lock signal)
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