The only way you can send me anything EMS is if I leave the country. 100% they don't and be VERY glad of that... you may also find that your girlfriends overseas experience and way of thinking has made her something of a pariah in Japan, especially if she has passed 25. After I while I crossed my fingers that I wouldn't have to see another starry eyed Japanese kid go overseas and come back having got a taste of Western culture to return to the hard slog of Japanese life, you saw them discover their souls, just to have it crushed like a sticking out nail. When you start asking "why" Japan becomes a hard place to deal with... I always thought you could continue doing that while you are overseas, you should start with Hoshino's website!Anyway, Luke, sit down, relax... telling you how it is, is not going to work you just have to find out for yourself, in two years you will be on here lecturing some n00b in the same way. Every single one of us on this forum thought we were different, thought we could deal with it, thought we wouldn't make the mistakes the others did. But we did, all of us, because we are gaijin.
Read Akeenans posts over the last year or two, the change in attitude is staggering, read my posts, again the same. Read anyones posts who has been in Japan a long time and you will see that living here as a foreigner is a very dynamic process with lots of stages that 99.999999% of us go through.
Enjoy the honeymoon period...