I Have A Personal Problem I Need Help With

[mad082]

otherwise you might have to think about kicking her to the kerb and finding yourself someone nicer.

[DAS KAMU]

if im somewhere where im not comfortabe or feeling safe i leave

lifes to short man

come play dominoes

[FATAZZ]

*pulls out domino's for later tonight*

Thanks for all the pill talk,im definately* showing this to my missus.

[nIsMo86]

+11ty billion 4 the pill.

My missus uses the pill brand yasmin and isnt psychotic...she also reckons it has the least side effects too. She tried other brands before and they just screwed her up. Maybe give that a try. Good luck working it out.

[KRY-57L]

My missus uses the pill brand yasmin and isnt psychotic...she also reckons it has the least side effects too. She tried other brands before and they just screwed her up. Maybe give that a try. Good luck working it out.

I have to agree, out of all the options ive tried Yasmin has been the best option so far.

And hating to admit this but your girlfriend kinda sounds like i did untill 18 months - 2 years ago, hard to deal with but ive admited it that i have an anger management problem. Probaly not the same level but pretty dam close. Personaly i think she needs to sit with someone from the outside on her own just see what happens, if your not there she cant blame you for anything.

Start small, work out what triggers her & go from there, i know for me its the smallest stupidest thing like someone leaving s toilet seat up. Stupis i know but thats all it takes.

Good luck Champ, your going to need it.

[fatz]

give her the flick

find a chick that isnt mental

best thing you will every do

[fatz]

buy a home brew kits they will love you more than she ever will

[NYTSKY]

You must be very patient.

If it were me i would have pulled the pin years ago. Like was said earlier life is too short be at the mercy of a bad relationship, especially if your the only one trying to hold it together.

I know it will be hard but i would consider ending it.

Just make sure you have a Flack Jacket or some protective gear on as i would imagine that situation would be like a bomb going off in your face.

[GTR-N1]

I have to agree, out of all the options ive tried Yasmin has been the best option so far.

And hating to admit this but your girlfriend kinda sounds like i did untill 18 months - 2 years ago, hard to deal with but ive admited it that i have an anger management problem. Probaly not the same level but pretty dam close. Personaly i think she needs to sit with someone from the outside on her own just see what happens, if your not there she cant blame you for anything.

Start small, work out what triggers her & go from there, i know for me its the smallest stupidest thing like someone leaving s toilet seat up. Stupis i know but thats all it takes.

Good luck Champ, your going to need it.

^^^+1

Good Call.

Like I said on an earlier Post, it may not be her fault at all. When genetics and brain chemistry act up, any little thing can set off a tirade.

You must love her heaps Champ. Keep praying and seeking - but don't burn yourself out!

Tez

PS The test I was referring to earlier is called the Hoffer-Osmond Diagnostic Test (University Saskatchewan Canada)

It's an oldie but a goodie. It's been admissable in court too.

[DECIM8]

The pill is pretty simple you have to find the right one which makes her boobs bigger, ass smaller, body thinner... if she goes abit nuts at least shes a good ride ..

Seriously.. get a good women friend to talk to .. you'll eventually start to like her and then leave your women.

No seriously.. seems like you've tried everything and the answer wont be found by her if you try things and dont stick to them because they dont suit you or her.. Its treatment not a fun ride.

Sorry to be so harsh, but this is how you have to talk... been with drug adicts n all sorts either its "lose the attitude or lose me" (you'll need to dump her before she realises) or its get on some pills perhaps you can try some natural therapies first.

Edited October 31, 2008 by DECIM8

[GTR-N1]

The pill is pretty simple you have to find the right one which makes her boobs bigger, ass smaller, body thinner... if she goes abit nuts at least shes a good ride ..

Seriously.. get a good women friend to talk to .. you'll eventually start to like her and then leave your women.

No seriously.. seems like you've tried everything and the answer wont be found by her if you try things and dont stick to them because they dont suit you or her.. Its treatment not a fun ride.

Sorry to be so harsh, but this is how you have to talk... been with drug adicts n all sorts either its "lose the attitude or lose me" (you'll need to dump her before she realises) or its get on some pills perhaps you can try some natural therapies first.

^^^+1

Natural Therapies recommended by the HOD Test include...

i) 5-Hydroxytryptophan (to help support Serotonin)

ii) Vit B3 with biotin and choline (to help her utilise her Serotonin better)

iii) l-Tyrosine (to help support Dopamine and the endorphin called Noradrenalin)

iv) dl-Phenylalanine (to support l-Tyrosine and correct Chocolate or alcohol sensitivity)

The 5 Clinical Scales of the HOD also help to determine dosages.

Besides myself in Sydney, there are a few practitioners in Melb & Brisbane who run this Test.

[CARSICK]

^^^+1

You'd probably have to get your 'sweetheart' at the right moment before you could convince her to see someone and get assessed.

As they say, "Strike while the iron's hot" mate.

All the best,

Edited November 1, 2008 by CARSICK

[NZM.031]

good luck with this one mate... mental illness can show its ugly head in many forms... ive been dealing with pretty bad depression for nearly 10 years now... ive managed it on my own and have many more good days than bad days.

for me it was acknowledgement of the problem... once i figured out what it was and that it was an actual problem, i am able to deal with it in my own ways.. no drugs or doctors to tell me to take drugs, that to me isnt fixing the problem, just masking it. it just tags along with me wherever i go, i know its there and respect it, so to speak.. if im having a bad day, i know it will get better if i just calm down and ride it out..

kinda like... umm, a shadow, following you wherever you go, at first your scared and unsure of it, whys it there, what does it want, why wont it leave you alone.. as time goes by.. you know its there, but its a shadow, it cant hurt you, but it can scare you and make you feel like crap if you dont respect it.. when it goes away... it feels like something is missing.. your happy the shadow is not there... but where did it go? when will it be back? why has it gone now? as much as i dont like my shadow... i'd rather it be there where i can keep an eye on it.

i used to be very angry... maybe more frustrated.. i had a good life, but was never happy, great parents, girlfriend, car, life, job, but something just wasnt right and i was angry that i didnt know what it was.

maybe she does have some head problems... maybe her anger isnt an anger problem but lack of sleep, bad dreams, or a bottled up feeling that she doesnt want you to know and masks it with anger. maybe its in her pill, or the type of milk or coffee or something she has everyday.

ive had heaps of thoughts and images run through my head, and done some things that i never want anyone else to ever know... and i think about them everyday... but thats just my problem.

i have been lucky that i can handle my problems... some people cant and need help.. maybe she does need drugs?? whatever the case mate, if you love her for who she is when shes not angry, then stick with it, if my gf left me when i was really bad, well... i wouldnt be here. but its also not your problem... you are your own person with your own life and you only get one so get on with it and do what you gotta do.

one thing that has helped me over the years is imersing myself in things... going all or nothing.. not thinking about anything else and constantly researching and planning jobs, work is a thing i must to to get money to fund my latest project. i get sick of it in a few months when i finish what im doing and realise my shadow is still there... but its a good few months. maybe your chick just needs a hobby, be it an outlet, or a distraction.

i have a friend who had spirits clinging to her.. no joke, she had to see a person that is all about vibes and spritual healing to get them off her... spirits would attach themselves to her and haunt her thoughts.... she didnt feel she could tell anyone and kept it to herself thinking she was insane... she was really scared, too afraid to go to sleep, and too afraid to stay awake.. true or not.. its what her brain was telling her and she believed it. could you imagine being that afraid?? maybe she watched the 6th sense too much... noone will ever know.. either way she was very tired, very scared, and very angry and snappy al the time, you could say hello to her and she would snap thinking you were making fun of her or something.. very sad.

all the best and think outside the box.

cheers

Linton

Edited November 1, 2008 by NZM.031

[GTR-N1]

Many many thanks for being so empathic and gracious Linton!

Tez

[Primordial]

i) 5-Hydroxytryptophan (to help support Serotonin)

Great after a massive night on the disco biscuits!

[Iron Chef]

Excellent thread.

I'm all for counselling, but to be honest, if you've tried and exhausted some of these options, then you need to really think about whether you need to get out of the relationship together.

Reading your first post, my recurring thought was how would we have all responded if you were the female in this situation and your partner was the male? Abuse takes many forms, and from what you've described, and how you've described how you're feeling about life, you've been abused for quite a long time. Time to recognise it for what it is.

You may love her, but you also need to love yourself. You'll need to be straight down the line with her, and if she refuses to accept that she has a problem, then you need to have the courage to leave. You'd be amazed at the weight that is lifted off your shoulders.

I feel really sorry for guys in this situation - it's very hard for blokes to admit they're being abused for fear that others won't see them as "being man enough". Thanks for having the guts to share your story.

[Primordial]

Amen..

cant identify with the situation, but i would imagine that the above is the best advice you'll be given!

[silver gts-t]

Speak to her family and tell them that your leaving her for your reasons and advise them to look out for her and them dump her...

Bottom line, this how you want to go through life?

In the end maybe if you leave her she'll realise how she treated you. Its like a child, if it keeps doing the wrong thing and you never issue punishment then they'll keep doing it.

Chicks are stubborn and dont even know whats good for them, counselling wont do shit.

[POLICE]

you should listen to Kim by Eminem, that song's got really good advice on how to shut her up for good

Edited November 2, 2008 by POLICE

[SECURITY]

i dont want to sound like a prick or anything, but sounds like shes doing something you dont know about which would kind've explain why she always angry and runs away from 'getting help'.

get a P.I. and see where that takes you.